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My husband and I have decided that tech companies who sell phones have caused a huge problem with minors and parents because they have not made it easy for parents to monitor children. And there is no doubt that they need it. These tech companies know very well who are the drivers behind sales of phones and data, TEENS and children. They get an F from us and should be charged with some sort of negligence! As far as a 17 year old pushing beyond set limits, there comes a point where it's simply a huge power struggle. It's probably time to bring in a third party to intervene. A therapist might help.
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
The tech companies are not at fault for parenting issues. They sell a product. You can buy it, or not.
My daughter is 16. She has no cell phone, no FB, no computer of her own. Until she's 18 I decide what she can and cannot have. It's called parenting.Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
Just as your are the parent, you should be enforcing any illegal contract entered into via phone or email by your child. Monitor their money, you monitor any access for phones. What you seem to be saying is that you are failing as a parent and want someone to blame.Due to a recent promotion, I should now be referred to as Major Obvious.
I would not be trying to provide information and knowledge if I did not sympathize.
Some days it is just not worth chewing through the restraints to face life.Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
I sympathize and those of you who post your smug, simple answers are just lucky YOUR kids responded well to your tactics. Not all kids are wired the same way and just judging other parents or saying they're looking for someone else to blame for their poor parenting is not only unhelpful, it's arrogant and ignorant.
Some kids will rebel harder and harder the tougher you try to be as a parent. You can have consequences, but what happens when you've taken away every privilege they have and they're still too stubborn to comply with your rules?
Yeah, the tough love thing may have worked with YOUR child, but not every child is exactly the same. I can sympathize because we have been through this and are still going through it. I came here to see what helpful suggestions people have, but I see that it's just smugness and judgement.Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
You are too sure of yourself. We have members that have experienced very difficult strong willed children. You either keep engaging the full court press and hope some of your efforts make a difference and pray until they become 18, then evict them,Due to a recent promotion, I should now be referred to as Major Obvious.
I would not be trying to provide information and knowledge if I did not sympathize.
Some days it is just not worth chewing through the restraints to face life.Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
"You can have consequences, but what happens when you've taken away every privilege they have and they're still too stubborn to comply with your rules?"
The original poster here was concerned bc their child wouldn't give them their internet passwords. The solution IS simple. You take away THEIR access. If that means they have no phone, no computer, so be it. If they need a computer for homework you put it in a central location and first install a key logger.
I've raised 4 kids, all very different. They all learned, eventually, that you follow the rules or you never leave the house alone and your room has the BARE essentials - bed, clothes, alarm clock.
Most parents simply aren't willing to step in that hard. That want to be friends, not parents.Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
Can I ask the police to forcibly get the password?
I must obtain the pw for several reasons.Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
Not unless a crime was committed.
This isn't Nazi Germany, yet.
You have to exercise your parental rights to discipline and control the child. To the extent you can of course.Comment
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I agree, that is not a task for the police it is something that you as a parent have to do and control.Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
You can just have the internet shut down and removed in the home if need be.
And IF you feel some crime occurred, an actual crime, the police can and would do their own investigation for you.
LJComment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
Maybe the kid just needs a good spanking!Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
Yes I think disabling the internet and taking away cell phones will make most kids follow the rules. That's like cutting off their entire lifeline in the eyes of most kids these days.Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
My kids are only allowed 1.5 hours of Internet at the max per day.
Some days it is a real struggle but they accept the rules in the end.
Parents have to stick to it and enforce the rules, whatever the rules you all agree may be.Comment
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Re: minor child refuses to give me the password for an online account
All the comments come down to one point.
Be a parent.Comment
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